Mu buzima bw’abashakanye, imibonano mpuzabitsina ni kimwe mu bintu bifasha kubaka urukundo, kwizerana no gukomeza ubumwe bw’umugabo n’umugore. Ariko hari ibihe umwe mu bashakanye, cyane cyane umugore cyangwa umugabo, ashobora kutifuza gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Icyo gihe bisaba ubushishozi n’ibiganiro aho gukoresha igitutu cyangwa amakimbirane.
Kwirinda gufata umwanzuro wihuse
Iyo umugore yanze gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, umugabo ntakwiye guhita atekereza ko atagikundwa cyangwa ko hari undi mugabo uri mu buzima bwe. Hari impamvu nyinshi zishobora gutuma umuntu adashaka gukora imibonano, zirimo:
- Umunaniro ukabije cyangwa ibibazo by’akazi.
- Guhangayika cyangwa kwiheba.
- Uburwayi cyangwa ububabare.
- Guhinduka kw’imisemburo, cyane cyane nyuma yo kubyara cyangwa mu gihe cyo gucura.
- Kuba hari ibibazo bitarakemurwa mu mubano.
Ganira aho kurakarira
Abahanga mu by’imibanire bavuga ko ikintu cya mbere kigomba gukorwa ari ukuganira mu ituze. Umugabo ashobora kubaza umugore we mu bwubahane ati:
“Hari ikibazo kiri kukubangamira? Hari icyo nakora kugira ngo wiyumve neza?”
Ikiganiro nk’iki gituma buri wese yumva atekanye kandi kigafasha kumenya umuzi w’ikibazo.
Wubahe uburenganzira bwa mugenzi wawe
Nubwo mwasezeranye, nta muntu ugomba guhatirwa gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina igihe atabishaka. Kubahana no kubaha ibyiyumvo bya mugenzi wawe ni ingenzi mu kubaka urugo rukomeye.
Abashakanye bagomba gushaka uko bumvikana aho gukoresha iterabwoba, igitutu cyangwa urugomo, kuko ibyo bishobora kurushaho kwangiza urukundo n’icyizere.
Reba niba hari ibibazo byihishe
Hari igihe kwanga imibonano biba ari ikimenyetso cy’ikindi kibazo. Bishobora guterwa n’uburwayi, ihungabana ryo mu mutwe, amakimbirane amaze igihe, cyangwa kuba umwe yumva atitaweho.
Mu gihe ikibazo kimaze igihe kirekire, kujya kwa muganga cyangwa kugisha inama impuguke mu by’ubuzima bw’imyororokere cyangwa mu buzima bwo mu mutwe bishobora gufasha.
Komeza kwereka mugenzi wawe urukundo
Urukundo ntirugarukira ku mibonano mpuzabitsina gusa. Gufashanya mu mirimo yo mu rugo, kuganira, gusohokana, gushimirana no kwerekana ko mwita kuri mugenzi wawe bishobora kongera ubushuti no gutuma ikibazo gikemuka buhoro buhoro.
Irinde gushakira igisubizo hanze y’urugo
Hari abagabo bahita batekereza gushaka undi mugore cyangwa gutangira gucana inyuma igihe bahuye n’iki kibazo. Nyamara, akenshi ibi bituma ikibazo kirushaho gukomera ndetse bikangiza urugo.
Iyo ikibazo gikomeje kumara igihe kandi ibiganiro bikaba bitagitanga umusaruro, kugana umujyanama w’abashakanye cyangwa impuguke mu mibanire ni imwe mu nzira zifasha.
Umwanzuro
Kwanga gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ntibivuze buri gihe ko urukundo rwarangiye. Kenshi biba bifitanye isano n’ibibazo by’ubuzima, amarangamutima cyangwa ibibazo byo mu mubano. Icy’ingenzi ni ukuganira mu bwubahane, kumva impamvu za mugenzi wawe no gushakira hamwe igisubizo. Urugo rwubakwa n’icyizere, ubwubahane n’ubufatanye, aho kubakwa n’igitutu cyangwa amakimbirane.
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