Mu muryango nyarwanda, kwakira abashyitsi bifatwa nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubupfura n’ubuntu. Gusa hari abagore benshi bahitamo kwanga kwakira abashyitsi, atari uko batabakunda, ahubwo kubera ko bumva inzu babamo idasa neza cyangwa idafite ibikoresho bihagije. Ibi bishobora gutuma babaho bahorana ipfunwe ndetse bakirinda gusurwa.
Abahanga mu mitekerereze ya muntu bavuga ko abantu benshi bakunda kwigereranya n’abandi. Iyo umuntu abonye inshuti cyangwa abavandimwe bafite amazu meza, ibikoresho bihenze cyangwa imitako igezweho, ashobora gutangira kumva ko iwe hadakwiye kwakira abantu. Uko kwigereranya gushobora gutuma yitakariza icyizere.
Hari abagore bavuga ko bahora bahangayikishijwe n’ibyo abashyitsi bazatekereza nibagera mu rugo rwabo. Bashobora kwibaza niba bazaseka intebe zashaje, inkuta zikeneye gusigwa irangi cyangwa ibikoresho bike bafite. Uwo mutwaro wo gutinya gucirwa urubanza ushobora gutuma bahitamo kwanga kwakira umuntu uwo ari we wese.
Hari n’igihe ikibazo kiba gifitanye isano n’ubukungu. Imiryango imwe iba itarabasha kubona amafaranga yo kuvugurura inzu cyangwa kugura ibikoresho bigezweho. Kubera iyo mpamvu, bamwe bumva bakwiye kubanza “gutungana” mbere yo gutumira abantu, nyamara imyaka igashira batarigeze babikora.
Ariko se koko inzu nziza ni yo ituma umushyitsi yishima? Akenshi igisubizo ni oya. Abashyitsi benshi bashimishwa no kwakiranwa urugwiro, guhabwa amazi cyangwa icyayi no kuganirizwa neza kurusha kureba sofa ihenze cyangwa imitako yo mu rugo. Urukundo n’ubwubahane ni byo bituma uruzinduko rwibukwa neza.
Abahanga mu buzima bwo mu mutwe banagaragaza ko guhora uhangayikishijwe n’ibyo abandi batekereza bishobora gutera umuntu guhangayika bikabije (anxiety) ndetse bikamutandukanya n’inshuti n’abavandimwe. Iyo umuntu atakigira uwo yakira cyangwa ngo asurwe, ashobora kugenda aba wenyine kandi bikagira ingaruka ku mibereho ye.
Ni ngombwa kandi kumenya ko nta rugo rutunganye. N’abafite amazu meza cyane hari ibyo baba bifuza kongeramo cyangwa kuvugurura. Gutegereza ko ibintu byose biba bitunganye mbere yo kwakira abashyitsi bishobora gutuma umuntu atazigera abikora.
Abagore bafite iyo myumvire bashobora gutangira buhoro buhoro, bakakira inshuti za hafi cyangwa abo mu muryango batinya gake. Ibi bishobora kubafasha kongera icyizere no kubona ko abantu benshi baza babasanga, atari ukuza gusuzuma inzu yabo.
Mu gusoza, agaciro k’urugo ntikapimwa n’ubwiza bw’inkuta cyangwa ibikoresho birimo, ahubwo gapimwa n’urukundo, amahoro n’ubwuzu biharangwa. Umushyitsi usohotse mu rugo yumvise yakiriwe neza ahora yibuka umutima mwiza yasanze, kuruta ibikoresho yabonye. Niyo mpamvu kudaterwa ipfunwe n’imiterere y’urugo bishobora gufasha imiryango kubaka umubano mwiza no gukomeza umuco nyarwanda wo kwakirana urugwiro.
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