Mu myaka ya mbere y’urushako, abashakanye benshi baba bafite ibyishimo byinshi, ariko uko imyaka ishira bamwe batangira guhura n’ibibazo bituma bamwe bafata icyemezo cyo gutandukana. Abasesenguzi b’imibanire bavuga ko hafi y’imyaka itanu ishobora kuba igihe gikomeye kuko ari bwo ibibazo byari byihishe bitangira kugaragara.
Iyo abantu bamaze igihe gito bashakanye, akenshi baba bakiri mu cyiciro cyo kumenyera ubuzima bushya, bafite urukundo rwinshi n’icyizere cy’ejo hazaza. Ariko nyuma y’imyaka runaka, cyane cyane hagati y’imyaka 3 na 7, hari abashakanye batangira kubona itandukaniro hagati y’ibyo batekerezaga mbere yo gushyingirwa n’ubuzima nyabwo babayemo.
1. Gutakaza umwanya wo kwita ku rukundo
Mu ntangiriro z’urushako, abantu benshi bashyira imbaraga mu gushimisha uwo bashakanye. Ariko nyuma y’imyaka mike, akazi, abana, inshingano zo mu rugo n’ibibazo by’ubuzima bishobora gutuma urukundo rudahabwa umwanya nk’uko byahoze.
Bamwe batangira kumva ko babaye nk’ababanana gusa aho kuba abakundana.
2. Ibibazo by’amafaranga
Amafaranga ni imwe mu mpamvu zikomeye zitera amakimbirane mu ngo nyinshi.
Nyuma y’imyaka mike, abashakanye bashobora guhura n’ibibazo nk’imyenda, kutumvikana ku micungire y’amafaranga, umwe yumva ko undi adatanga umusanzu uhagije cyangwa bafite intego zitandukanye ku bijyanye n’ubutunzi.
Iyo ibi bibazo bitaganiriweho neza, bishobora kubangamira cyane umubano.
3. Itandukaniro riba rigaragara nyuma yo kubana
Hari abantu bashobora kumarana igihe cyo gukundana batabonye neza imico yose y’uwo bashaka kubana na we.
Nyuma yo kubana imyaka mike, umuntu ashobora gutangira kubona imyitwarire atari azi mbere: uburyo mugenzi we akemura amakimbirane, uko afata inshingano, uko yitwara ku muryango cyangwa ku kazi.
Ibi bishobora gutuma bamwe bumva baribeshye mu guhitamo.
4. Ibibazo byo kubyara no kurera abana
Mu myaka ya mbere y’urushako, imiryango myinshi iba itangiye kubona abana. Nubwo abana ari umugisha ku miryango myinshi, bashobora no kuzana impinduka zikomeye.
Kubura ibitotsi, umunaniro, kugabana inshingano zo kurera abana no kutumvikana ku buryo bwo kubarera bishobora guteza umwuka mubi mu rugo.
5. Kutaganira neza
Abashakanye benshi ntibatandukana kubera ikibazo kimwe gikomeye, ahubwo kubera ibibazo bito byagiye byiyongera kubera kutaganira.
Iyo umwe atangira kubika inzika, kutavuga ibimubabaza cyangwa kumva ko atitabwaho, intera hagati yabo ishobora kwiyongera.
6. Kugereranya urushako n’abandi
Imbuga nkoranyambaga nazo zishobora kugira uruhare mu gutuma bamwe batishimira urugo rwabo.
Iyo umuntu ahora abona abandi bagaragaza ubuzima bwiza, impano n’urukundo kuri internet, ashobora gutangira kumva ko urushako rwe rudahagije, nubwo ibyo abona bitaba byuzuye ukuri.
7. Kugabanuka kw’icyizere cyangwa ubuhemu
Iyo icyizere hagati y’abashakanye gisenyutse kubera kubeshyana, ubuhemu cyangwa indi myitwarire ibabaza, kongera kubaka uwo mubano bishobora kuba bigoye.
Bamwe bahitamo gutandukana aho gukomeza kubana mu makimbirane adashira.
Ese imyaka itanu ni yo itera gutandukana?
Oya. Imyaka itanu ubwayo si yo itera gutandukana, ahubwo ni igihe benshi baba batangiye guhura n’ibizamini by’ubuzima busanzwe nyuma y’icyiciro cy’ubukwe n’ibyishimo byo gutangira urugo.
Abahanga mu mibanire bavuga ko ingo ziramba ari izo abantu bombi bakomeza kwiga kumva mugenzi wabo, kuganira ku bibazo hakiri kare no gushyira imbaraga mu kubaka umubano.
Mu by’ukuri, urushako ntiruramba kubera ko abantu batagira ibibazo, ahubwo ruramba iyo bafite ubushobozi bwo kubikemura hamwe.