Abo bantu bose bafashwe, bari bitabiriye ubutumire bw'umusore washakaga kubereka umukobwa bendaga kurushingana.Bageze mu resitora barizihirwa bararya, baranywa, barenga ku mabwiriza yo kwirinda Covid-19 ari bwo bafatwaga na Polisi ihawe amakuru n'abaturage ko hari abantu bashobora kuba bari mu birori bitemewe.

Umuhuzabikorwa bya Polisi n'abaturage mu Ntara y'Amajyaruguru, CIP Alex Ndayisenga, yasabye abaturage kutirara na gato kuko Covid-19 igihari kandi uko kwirara biyiha icyuho cyo gukomeza gukwirakwira muri benshi.

Yagize ati”Polisi irasaba abaturage gukomeza kwirinda Covid-19 bubahiriza amabwiriza kuko igihari kandi uko birara ni ko bayiha icyuho no kwanduzanya hagati yabo. Polisi iributsa ko ubusabane n'ibirori bibera mu ngo bibujijwe.'

Abafashwe bose uko ari 24 bahise bajyanwa kuri Sitasiyo ya Polisi ya Muhoza ngo bigishwe banacibwe amande yagenwe n'Inama Njyanama ariko bazarekurwa ari uko bamaze gupimwa Covid-19.

Umuyobozi w'Akarere ka Musanze Nuwumuremyi Jeannine asaba abaturage gukomeza kwirinda kuko Covid-19 ihari kandi yandura igahitana n'ubuzima bwa bamwe kandi ko bazakomeza kugenzura no guhana abarenga nkana kuri ayo mabwiriza.

Yagize ati”Nibyo muri iyi minsi turagenda tubona imibare y'abandura yiyongera ariko ubona ko bituruka ku bantu bari kudohoka ku mabwiriza yo kwirinda Covid-19.Tumaze igihe kirenga umwaka duhanganye n'iki cyorezo kandi kiracyahari, tuzakomeza gukurikirana ishyirwa mu bikorwa ryayo n'abayarengaho bahanwe nk'uko byemejwe n'Inama Njyanama y'Akarere”

Akarere ka Musanze ni kamwe mu tumaze iminsi tugaragaza izamuka rikabije ry'imibare y'abandura Covid-19 kuko kuva uku kwezi kwa gatandatu kwatangira hamaze kwandura abantu 80 mu gihe 78 banduye muri iki cyumweru gishize gusa bigaragara ku muri icyo cyumweru handuaraga abarenga 11 ku munsi.

Bamwe mu bafashwe bari mu birori barenze ku mabwiriza yo kwirinda Covid-19

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Source : http://igihe.com/amakuru/u-rwanda/article/covid-19-abantu-24-bafatanywe-n-umusore-wabatumiye-mu-birori-ngo-abereke

Kureba prono, bigakurikirwa no kw’ikikinisha burya ni bibi birutwa no gushaka uwo mubikorana bikagira inzira. Burya iyo urebye prono bikagutera ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina warangiza ukikinisha dore ibyo uba uri kwangiza mu bwonko bwawe :

Mu busanzwe :

Icyambere, mu busanzwe umubiri ufata umubonano mpuzagitsina nk’imenyetso cy’iterambere muri societe, mu bukungu no mu buhangage umugabo aba agezeho. Bivuze ko iyo ukoranye icyo gikorwa n’umugore umubiri wawe wo w’umva ko uhembwe ku bw’icyiza runaka wagezeho, akaba ariyo mpamvu ubashije no gushimwa n’umugore akaguha umubiri we. Iki nicyo gisobanuro umubiri wawe wumva iyo ukoze umubonano mpuzagitsina ukarangiza.

Ku beshya ubwonko bwawe birawangiza

Akenshi usanga abagore n’abakobwa bakina muri za firime z’urukozasoni aba ari beza bihambaye bagakora n’ibirenze cyane maze binarenze ibyo abagore basanzwe bakorera abagabo mu buzima busanzwe. 

Iyo rero urebye ishusho rya bene uwo mukobwa ukikinisha , uba ubwiye umubiri wawe ko wabaye indashikirwa cyane mu bagabo, akaba ari wowe wegukanye uwo mukobwa. Ibi bitera ingaruka zikurikira :

– Ubwonko buhita bugabanya ubushake bwo gukora cyane, kuko uba w’umva ko wamaze gutera imbere. Bikautera ubunebwe

– Ubwonko buhita bw’umva ko undi mukobwa uwari wese uri munsi y’uwo ubonye muri ayo mashusho atari mu rwego rwawe adakwiriye no kugushimisha.

– Ubwonko bugashaka ibirenze ibyo wabonye muri ayo mashusho, kugirango bubashe kw’ihaza. Uri umugabo wubatse rero niho usanga umugore wawe atakiguhagije wamubona igitsina n’ikinabashe guhaguruka, cyeretse utekereje kuri ya mashusho warebye. Mu byukuri ukora igikorwa cy’abashakanye utekereza undi mugore, umugore wawe akabibona neza kandi ko umutima wawe utari kumwe nawe. 

– Ubaye ukiri umusore utarashaka, gutereta birakunanira kuko ubwonko bw’umva ko uko ubona abagore beza mu buryo bworoshye utavunitse ari nako mu buzima busanzwe bigomba kugenda. Ugasanga ushimishwa n’indaya kurusha abakobwa.

Izi ni ingaruka zimwe zikwiriye kw’irindwa n’igitsina gabo kuko ari cyo cy’ugarijwe cyane n’icyorezo cy’amashusho y’urukozasoni. Mu gusoza icyo twababwira, nyamuneka aho kugirango urebe ayo mashusho w’ikinishe wajya hanze ukajya gutereta ukareba ko baguha.

Sangiza iyi nkuru uwo w’umva ko yagirira akamaro.

Source : God For a better life

Iki ni ikibazo aba christo benshi bakunda kwiyibazaho. Ni ryari urushako rwategetswe ko rugomba kuba hagati y’umugabo n’umugore umwe gusa? Ibi naho bigaragara muri bibiriya, ahubwo uherereye mu gitabo cya genese, ubwo cain umwana wa adamu na eva yafataga abagore babiri, ndetese na Mose watanze Amategeko icumi y’imana, yarafite abagore babiri. uwaciye agahigo yari Salomon, wari ufite abagore barenga 700, n’abandi bo kuruhande bagera kuri 500. 

Hari n’ingero nyinshi mu byanditse aho Imana isezeranira abami b’israel kuzabaha abagore benshi. Ese byagenze gute ngo, abantu cyane cyane igitsina gore cyumva ko umugabo agomba kuba w’umugore umwe gusa? Aho usanga mu bihugu byinshi ari icyaha gihanirwa n’ amategeko , ko umugabo yagira umugore wa kabiri cyangwa uwa gatatu? Aho byaba byaraturutse hose nabwo byaturutse muri Bibiriya. 

Icyaha cy’ubusambanyi kivugwa mu mategeko icumi y’imana nabwo ari icyimande zombi. Kuko, icyo cyaha kibaho gusa iyo umugabo asambanyije umugore w’undi mugabo (Umugore uri marier).  

Mu isezerano rishya, Yesu ategeka umugabo gukunda umugore we, n’umugore k’ubaha umugabo we. Bivuze ko igihe umugabo abanye n’umugore umwe gusa aba ari ikimenyetso cy’urukundo amukoreye nabwo biba ari uburenganzira. Binavuze ko igihe cyose umugore yateshuka ku nshingano zo kubaha umugabo we, umugabo aba yemerewe gushaka undi mugore. 

Sibyo se?

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Muri ibi bihe, hari kuvugwa ibibazo byinshi mu miryango hagati y’abashakanye. Ubushakashatsi bukomeje gukorwa bugaragaza ko , umutungo no gucana inyuma bikomeje kuza ku isonga mu bitera ibibazo mu ngo. Nk’umuntu washakanye bisaba kumenya ibimenyetso bigaragazwa n’ uwo mubana uguca inyuma byagufasha kumenya uko w’itwara icyo gukora n’icyo kwitondera. Turaza kubigeraho byose nyuma y’iyi nkuru. 

Ubushakashatsi kandi bwagaragaje ko abagore bazi guhisha cyane guca inyuma kwabo kurusha abagabo. Iyo uri umugabo ukabona umugore wawe y’itwaye mu buryo bukurikira uzamenye udashidikanyije ko aguca inyuma :

1. Ahora terefoni ye yagabanyije amajwi (Silencieux)

Ni ubona umugore wawe terefoni ye ihora muri silencieux, yakuyemo amajwi ujye umenya ko hari umuhamagara aba adashaka ko bizaba uhari.

2. Kudashaka gutera akabariro n’inzitwazo z’uburwayi.

Ni ubona umugore wawe ahora yitwaza ububabare bw’umubiri ni mutere akabariro uzamenye neza ko aguca inyuma. Akenshi abagore bitwaza kubabara umugongo, n’ibindi akanga ko mukora igikorwa cy’abashakanye kuko aba yamaze kuguca inyuma.

3. Gushaka kumenya aho uherereye

Umugore uca inyuma umugabo we, akunda kumuhamagara amubaza aho aherereye; Ibi umugabo hari igihe abifata nk ikimenyetso cyo kumwiyitaho nyamara aba agirango utaza kumufata ari kumwe n’uwo agucana inyuma. Itondere ikibazo : “Cheri uri hehe?”

4. Inzitwazo zo gusohoka no gutinda hanze

Umugore uca inyuma umugabo we, akunda gushaka inzitwazo zituma asohoka agatinda hanze; Urugero inshuro yajyaga gusenga , kuri gym, zikiyongera n’amasaha ahamara nayo akiyongera niba afite akazi agataha atinze cyane 

5. Agushinja kumuca inyuma

Ibi birasanzwe cyane ku munyacyaha gushinja uwo yakoreye icyaha icyo cyaha. Umugore uca inyuma umugabo we amuhoza ku nkeke z’uko umugabo amuca inyuma kandi ari we ubikora. Ubu ni uburyo bwo kw’iruhura umutima, avuga ngo n’ubwo mbikora nawe arabikora

6. Yanga umuryango abaturanyi n’inshuti z’umugabo we

Umugore uca inyuma umugabo nabwo akunda abaturanyi, inshuti z’umugabo we, ndetse n’umuryango w’umugabo we. Kuko abayicyeka ko azafatwa nabo bakaba babibwira umugabo bakamusebya. 

 7. Hari ahantu aba adashaka kujya mu mujyi nk’ama restaurant amwe n’amwe

Umugore uca inyuma umugabo we usanga hari nk’ahantu aba adashaka gukandagira nk’iyo mwasohotse. Ibi akenshi abiterwa no kwanga kuhahurira n’uwo ba sambana cyangwa abandi bazi ibyo akora. Ashobora kwanga kujya muri restaurant y’ igeze gusohokaniramo n ‘uwo basambana ngo batamubona ari kumwe n ‘ umugabo we w’ukuri bikaba ikibazo.

8.  Iyo muteye akabariro usanga akoze ikintu atarigeze akora mu buzima bwe

Iyo ubonye umugore wawe atangiye kuzana ibikorwa bidasanzwe utazi aho akuye mu buriri uzamenye ko “kakubayeho”. Ashobora gutangira kunyonga muburyo atari asanzwe akunyongeramo mbere. Akagusaba ko umurigata mu myanya y’ibanga utarigeze ubimukorera; cyangwa we akabigukorera yari yarabyanze mbere. Ushobora kuryoherwa cyane bikakurangaza, ariko urarye uri menge!

9. Avuga ko atishimye n’asobanure impamvu

Umugore uhorana umushiha akagaragaza kutishimira imibanire yanyu akenshi ni uko aba afite ukundi agereranya urukundo rwanyu, n’urwo abonera hanze y’urushako.

10. Arakazwa n’ubusa

Icyo ukoze cyose arakurakarira

11. Ahamagarwa na numero zitazwi

12. Asigaye y’iyitaho birenze uko yarasanzwe

13. Akugurira impano zihenze n’umenye aho yakuye amafaranga

14. Yanduye indwara yandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina

Iki ni ikimenyetso cyacyuma simusiga. Iyo ubunye umugore wawe yanduye indwara utazi yandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina, uzi neza ko utigeze umuca inyuma cyangwa wowe itaragufata, numenye aho yayikuye, nawe urabyumva nyine.

Ni iki cyakorwa n’umugabo ubonye ibi bimenyetso bigaragaye ku mugore we? 

Ugomba gushaka ibimenyetso simusiga. Shaka aba gufasha kumenya amakuru yose yuzuye. Cyane ukamenya uwo agucana inyuma uwo ari we, n’uburyo n’igihe bahurira.

Ni iki umugabo atagomba gukora, mu gihe acyetse ko umugore we amuca inyuma?

Mu gihe utara bona ibimenyetso, nabwo ugomba kumutonganya, kucyecyera, kuko ibi nacyo bitanga arushaho gusanga uwo basambana, bikagabanya amahirwa ko urukundo rwanyu rwagaruka, bigahungabanya umuryango na societe. Banza ushakishe ibimenyetso byose.

Ni iki umugabo y’akora amaze kubona ikimenyetso ko umugore we yasambanye hanze?

Ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko 80% by’ingo zigaragayemo umugore uciye inyuma umugabo, zihita zitandukanya. 15% gusa nizo zibasha gusubirana. Umaze ku bona ibimenyetso wabanza ugahamagara inshuti, umuryango , abanya madini cyangwa abayobozi ikibazo ukagishira hanze n’umugore wawe ahari. bakabagira inama, akabazwa icyamuteye gukosa hagamijwe kureba niba kugumana bigishoboka. Wagira Imana ukisanga muri 15% babasha kongera kubana.

Ni iki umugabo atagomba gukora amaze kubona ikimenyetso ko umugore we yasambanye hanze?

Icyo utagomba gukora ni ugushaka kumuhima nawe ukajya gusambana hanze, mukabaho muri ubwo buzima bwo gucana inyuma. Ibyo ni bibi, kuko nakindi byabaviramo usibye kwanduzanya indwara no kubyara abana hanze badafite imiryango bikagira ingaruka mbi ku gihugu na societe.

Source : bestlifeonline.com

Ubu bushakashatsi bwakozwe na kaminuza ya Oxford mu bwongereza bwagaragaje ko Abagabo bareba prono cyangwa filime z’urukozasoni, byibuze gatatu mu cyumweru nibagira ubushake bwo guca inyuma abo bashakanye bitewe n’uko baba bameze kw’imaramo ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, kuko mu gihe bareba prono abenshi muri bo, birangira bikinishije bakabasha kurangiza.

Mu gihe akenshi mu ngo usanga umugore agira impamvu nyinshi zitandukanye zatuma atagira ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina nko kujya mu mihango, cyangwa izindi mpamvu, ugasanga umugabo aboneraho urwitwazo rwo kujya gushaka ahandi abicyemurana bikaba byatera amakimbirane muri urwo rugo mugihe umugore yamucyekera cyangwa akumufata ari muri icyo cyaha.

Ubu bushakashatsi, bwanagaragaje ko , umugabo ureba bene izo firime, iyo agiye kubikorana n umugore we atinda kurangiza bircyo umugore akarushaho kuryoherwa bitewe n’uko abenshi muri bo (abagore), banga umugabo urangiza vuba. 

Gusa n’ubwo ubu bushakashatsi bw’ibanda cyane cyane ku byiza bishobora guturuka mu kureba izo filime, nabwo twakwirengagiza ibibi by’izo filime cyane cyane ingaruka mbi zigira kubazikinamo, harimo nko guhabwa ibiyobyabwenge, gukuramo inda, kwiyahura, kandi rimwe na rimwe hagakoreshamo abana batarakwiza imyaka y’ubukure bikunzwe kuvugwa kenshi kuri internet. Ibi Bikwiye kwamaganirwa kure no kurwanywa ahashoboka hose.

Izo ngaruka mbi zivuyemo; mwebwe mubyumva gute? Ese umugabo akwiye kureba izo firime aho guca umugore we inyuma?

Source : Oxford University Sexual Health and Sexual Behavior https://oxfordre.com/psychology/view/10.1093/acrefore/9780190236557.001.0001/acrefore-9780190236557-e-704