Mu buzima bw’abashakanye, hari ibibazo bitandukanye bishobora kuvuka bitewe n’uko umwe cyangwa bombi batagejeje ku wundi ibyo bifuza mbere yo kubana. Kimwe muri ibyo ni ibyo umugore umwe yavuze mu rukiko, aho yashinje umugabo we ko afite ubwoya bucye ku mubiri, ibintu yavuze ko bituma atakimwishimira nk’umugabo.
Uyu mugore, nk’uko byatangajwe n’ibitangazamakuru byo mu mahanga byakurikiranye urwo rubanza, yavuze ko mbere yo gushyingiranwa atigeze amenya neza uko umugabo we yari ateye ku mubiri, kuko igihe kinini yabaga yambaye imyenda isanzwe. Nyuma yo kubana, ngo yatunguwe no gusanga afite ubwoya bucye cyane ku gituza, ku maboko no ku maguru, nyamara we yari yarifuje umugabo ufite ubwoya bwinshi.
Yabwiye urukiko ko icyo kibazo cyatumye atakimwumva nk’umuntu umukurura, ndetse ko byagiye bigira ingaruka ku mubano wabo. Yavuze ko yumvaga yarinjiye mu rushako afite ibitekerezo bitandukanye n’ibyo yasanze.
Ku ruhande rw’umugabo, we yavuze ko atigeze ahisha uko ateye, ahubwo ko atigeze atekereza ko ingano y’ubwoya bwo ku mubiri ishobora kuba ikibazo gikomeye mu rushako. Yongeyeho ko ari imiterere karemano umuntu avukana kandi idashobora kuba impamvu yo gucirwa urubanza cyangwa gutandukana.
Abahanga mu by’imitekerereze ya muntu bavuga ko gukururwa n’imiterere y’umuntu ari ibintu bisanzwe kandi bitandukana hagati y’abantu. Hari abakunda abantu bafite imisatsi myinshi cyangwa ubwoya bwinshi ku mubiri, mu gihe abandi bo bakunda abafite uruhu rudasamye ubwoya bwinshi. Icyakora, bagaragaza ko iyo ibyo umuntu akunda bitaganiriweho mbere y’ubukwe, bishobora kuvamo kutanyurwa no guterana amagambo nyuma yo kubana.
Banibutsa ko urukundo rurambye rudakwiye gushingira gusa ku isura cyangwa ku miterere y’umubiri, ahubwo ko rugomba kubakirwaho icyizere, kubahana, gushyikirana no kwakirana uko buri wese yaremwe.
Iyi nkuru yongeye gukwirakwira ku mbuga nkoranyambaga, aho yateje impaka ndende. Hari abavuze ko buri muntu afite uburenganzira bwo kugira ibyo akunda ku mubiri w’uwo bazabana, mu gihe abandi bagaragaje ko guhindura ikibazo cy’imiterere karemano y’umuntu impamvu yo gusenya urugo bishobora kuba bidakwiye.
Abasesenguzi b’imibanire y’abashakanye basoza bavuga ko kimwe mu by’ingenzi mbere yo gushyingiranwa ari ukuganira ku byo buri wese yiteze ku wundi, harimo imico, indangagaciro n’ibindi bishobora kugira ingaruka ku mubano, aho kwishingikiriza gusa ku byo umuntu yibwira cyangwa ku byo yifuza.
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